The female orgasm: 8 truths about female orgasms

by LotteLust
female orgasms

Orgasms, are they the most important thing about sex? Not really. Yet it often seems like a spectacular climax is the all-deciding factor for good sex. We rectify these and other misunderstandings about the female orgasm with these 8 truths.

  1. Orgasms are healthy!

Let’s put that first. We may not necessarily have sex for our health, but for pleasure. Yet your body and mind get a nice health boost. It can relieve stress, insomnia and depression. It can also reduce pain (cramps and headaches), stimulate your brain activity, keep you young and it is good for your heart.

  1. The female orgasm is just as important as the male orgasm

An orgasm is not the end goal, but if you want it then you have just as much right to it as your male bed partner. While it is biologically necessary for a man to discharge his seed, that does not mean that the woman’s climax is inferior to theirs. Go girls!

  1. Every woman is different

Hopefully this comes as no surprise. Every woman has different sexual desires. From what turns her on to how her body works. What works well for one woman to get her off, doesn’t work for another. A tip for men to remember. As a woman you can also get an important message from it. Namely that you do not have to feel strange if an orgasm takes a little longer for you or that it is not strange if you need a different kind of stimulation than most women.

  1. There is no ‘perfect’ way to orgasm

Penetration doesn’t do enough for most women when it comes to orgasm. It feels very nice, but without other stimulation there is usually no climax. The perfect way for you can be completely different from that of other women (see point 3). For example, with one external clitoral stimulation, ‘it’ can already be done, while the other enjoys a combination of anal stimulation, stimulation of the nipples or oral sex. If it feels good, it is good. End of story.

  1. ‘It takes too long’ doesn’t exist

Five minutes or fifty minutes, some women take longer to climax than others. For the average woman, it takes twenty to thirty minutes. Maybe you recognize it yourself that one day you can cum like that in five minutes, while the other times it takes much longer or really doesn’t work – no matter how long you or he tries. It can depend on a million factors: from your menstrual cycle to a stressful day at work. Sometimes it is simply due to poor communication in bed between you and your lover. It is important not to look at the (imaginary) clock. Worrying about the time will only add stress and makes orgasming even more difficult. Sex is not a competition, so relax!

  1. No noise is strange

Moaning, panting, squealing, screaming. It doesn’t matter what sounds come from your mouth. As long as it is natural. Fact: making noise during stimulation makes you cum faster.

  1. Strange positions don’t exist

Sometimes you have to bend your body in strange ways to get clitoral stimulation during vaginal sex. It may not always look charming, but who cares? Don’t worry about how you look. Forget everything but the feeling. If it feels good, it is good.

  1. Every vulva is beautiful and unique

Because of pornographic images, many men and women no longer know what a “real” vagina looks like. About 80 percent of the vulvas (the external part of the vagina) you see in porn have been taken care of by a plastic surgeon. Such a porn pussy/designer vagina has resulted in a huge growth in labia corrections. Newsflash: Vajayjays come in all shapes, colors and sizes. Really.

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